I don’t know about you, but as a woman I feel about as stretched as Michelle Dugger’s belly. It could be because of the “thirty(ish)” in me, or the “married,” “mother,” “housekeeper,” calendar-keeper,” “house accountant,” “referee,” or “child therapist.” Naturally, I was drawn to the book Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson. It is written in a ‘letter-to-a-mentor-for-advice’ format and the advice is in overabundance in the best way possible. The book’s subtitle directs it towards “hope for the mom who needs to breathe,” but I believe the advice can be taken by any woman who needs a minute or sixty to refocus.
However, this model does not encourage loneliness. Our life turns into a battle sometimes and we need our sisters in Christ, but like Sally and Sarah demonstrate in the book, we have the opportunity to find older mentors who can guide us by showing how they have completed their paths in God; vice versa, the older generation can choose to seek out the younger women to be mentees.
In the book, Sally, the elder, shares with Sarah, “going at it alone is, without a doubt, one of the most common and effective strategies that Satan uses to discourage moms. A woman alone in her home with her ideals eventually wears down and becomes a perfect target for Satan to discourage. Some women have journeyed alone for so long they are not even aware of their urgent need for mentors, friends, peers, and fellowship” (19).
As I worked on the newsletter for this month, the events were quite spare. I realize it’s summer, but you’ll notice on the calendar portion I “stole” events from other groups that involved women to make the calendar not look so limp. All silliness aside, I do wish there were more fellowship opportunities, but I’m usually the one waiting to get invited. God must have known my desires, because He led me to another passage in the above-mentioned book in which Sally states, “I have to start almost every group to which I have ever belonged. One of the first lessons I learned was not to be discouraged if others did not invite me. In this individualistic culture where everyone is too busy and overwhelmed with life, the groups in which we find community will inevitably by the groups we start ourselves” (22).
Therefore – I am doing it! Ladies’ Night Out at Diddy’s Yogurt Shoppe (See calendar below for details) Let’s pack the place and take all of their orange chairs! If you have any ideas for future Ladies’ get-togethers, bring them with you!